Three days after giving birth to my youngest son last fall, I left the hospital in yoga pants, a tank top and flip flops.
A bevy of photographers were not waiting for me. Why would they be? I’m not a celebrity. Why would anyone care what I look like while cuddling a newborn?
This week, Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan Markle introduced their 3-day-old son to the world. Like her sister-in-law Kate Middleton, the Duchess of Cambridge, Meghan was dressed to magnificence as she introduced her baby boy.
Yes, this is her job. But no woman should feel pressured to look perfect just hours into motherhood. (Nor should she feel obligated to wear heels on her swollen feet.)
I can’t begin to tell you how often new, exhausted mothers share their frustrations as they fall short on unreal expectations.
They fret because their newborn doesn’t sleep through the night.
They worry because their baby won’t easily rise to eat from a bottle or breast.
They panic when their child will only sleep while being held.
They stress because they’ve set all household chores aside to tend to their newborn.
And of course, they feel ashamed when baby weight doesn’t magically dissolve after giving birth.
It’s. All. OK.
Baby will sleep…eventually. And baby will eat when hungry. The chores can wait. Soon enough, you’ll be reminiscing about those early sleepless nights, wearing one single outfit for days straight and twice weekly showers.
Try not to compare yourself with others. Pay no attention to the snapshot of life other mothers share on social media.
Here’s a not-so-well kept secret: It’s not reality.
People share moments they want you to see: A well-groomed family portrait, siblings cuddling, a mess-free kitchen, a Pinterest-worthy nursery.
You rarely see the meltdowns, the clutter, half-cooked meals abandoned on the counter.
Embrace the mess. Give yourself grace. Wear your pajamas to the store with your newborn in tow. (People will comment on your adorable child, not your outfit.)
It will pass soon enough and you’ll be happier for it. Heels and all.
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